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Toy Review: Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples

I received three toy’s from Satisfyer in exchange for an honest fair review. I have decided to write about the Satisyer Pro 4 couples first.


Satisfyer gorgeous range of toy’s

Satisfier Pro 4 Couples

Pros & Cons


  • Silicone
  • Waterproof
  • Gorgeous Design
  • Unique Suction technology
  • Various Strong Vibration Settings
  • Quiet Suction setting when on body
  • Rechargable using magnetic charger
  • Removable suction tip


  • Point at end of toy uncomfortable internally
  • Shape not adjustable and does not work for all cis female bodies
  • I couldn’t properly use it due to the fit and shape



Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples

Ranked compared to other Satisfyer models: 6th place out of 6.

Other reviews of Satisfyer toys: Click here for more Satisfyer reviews,

I wanted to love this toy. I wanted something me and my partner could use, during either penile penetration or with a strap on or fingers. I decide to try it on my own first, with the plan to use a dildo with it.

I loved the look, sleek, feminine, rose gold accents , completely gorgeous. It looked, completely fuckable. It reminded me of other toys made by companies that specialize in couples sex enhancement. I loved the idea of oral sex stimulation as apposed to just vibration, and why shouldn’t I? Oral sex turns me on much more than vibration ever will.

Satisfyer does an amazing job of reproducing the sensations brought about by oral sex. See my reviews of the Satisfyer Penguin and other Satisfyer products here. I can always expect a good time with their products. I had so much fun with this new line, but this product had a fatal flaw for me.

Fatal flaw:

Every body is different. Not every toy is prepared to adjust to everybody. Unfortunately for me, this toy was angled too lightly to work for my body, which meant when the suction hit my clit, the top hit the farther wall of my vagina. This would of been ok, if it weren’t for the  aesthetic looking slightly pointed tip, which made it very uncomfortable.

Because of these two problems – bringing either a partner or dildo was out of the question. I could manage fingers which could wrap around the thin toy, but moving around was uncomfortable and made this a tedious process.

I wanted to love this toy. The suction, overall is great, and if you have got a vagina that is closer to the clit than I have, it may work for you. I feel like this toy may work for men who like anal stimulation and well as stimulation of the taint. But as I don’t have that situation I can’t tell you first hand.

I recommend you look at other reviews to form your opinion on it before purchasing, every body is different. This toy won two awards, so it must work wonders for some bodies.

This toy didn’t fit my body, and it was not adjustable, so my experience was sub par. Luckily, the experience of the other two products they sent blew my mind.

Check out the rest of Satisfyer’s range here:


Toy Review: G-Balls 2

I recieved the G-balls 2 from Fun Toys in exchange for a fair and honest review


It is never easy to review a product that I had a had a poor experience with. I want every product to be good. The sad part about this particular review is that I didn’t get enough time with the product to be able to tell you much about it. The first product I recieved refused to charge, and the second one I got didn’t react properly when pressed (normally by your kegal muscles)

About the Toy:

Material: Silicone/Plastic

Safe Lubricant: Waterbased

Main Function: Kegal Exercise activated Vibration  / Weighted Kegal balls

App Compatible: Yes, can also be used without app

Can be used with partner: Yes, Partner can cause vibrations using app if you are in the same room.

Warranty: One Year

The idea of G-Balls:

This product is epic in theory. When I got the first set they were fully charged and I got a chance to play with them. I used the app to make the bird fly for a certain number of seconds, followed by a rest, and then making the bird fly again. If the battery would of charged I would of been able to review the product, it seemed amazing! I’m sad that it unfortunately didn’t work out that way. The app offered to keep track of my progress and I imagined playing the kegal game every night for fun and having strong enough kegals to lift a surf board. The G-balls do have a one year warranty so if this happens to you, you can let them know. I emailed Fun Toys and they sent me a new set in a week. It is the fastest I’ve ever recieved a product. Unfortunately when it arrived the sides of it wouldn’t react as the last ones did. I even tried it with my hands and it took a rediculous amount of pressure. They were properly weighted and sat well in my body.


These toys came in a plain cardboard box, there was nothing about it that said that it was a sex toy. It came with instruction manuals in the box, as well as a charger and a storage bag.


Toy Review: Three Satisfyer’s – Three Experiences


Hello Curious Blog Readers, 

Today I am writing about the Satisfyer brand of clitoral toys. I created a lot of hype in my head for these toys, I remember seeing it for a year on the shelves of the store and dreaming that one day, I may get the chance to try it. The lovely people at Satifyer sent me three models to review for you great people. I probably would of purchased one a long time ago if I would of realized they were being grossly overpriced at the toy shop I worked for and went to the company site instead.


My Experience 

I recieved the Satisfyer series of toys from @satisfyercom in a cardboard box that made me think I was getting a product I ordered on Wish. Good thing I didn’t open it in the post office, it was so discreet even I had no clue.

When I got to my car I opened it and was shocked to find three versions of the Satisfyer. I was really hoping they would send the Satisfyer Pro 2 and they did!

When I got home I got to my testing, after some initial photo’s. I started off with the one I thought would be weakest, the battery operated Satisfyer 2. As I imagined it would be it was too light for me and I found the opening too small to comfortably place on my clitoris.

I moved on to the one I thought might be second best, The Satisfyer Pro Penguin. First I admired its adorable shape. I was a little disappointed that I chose the pink one instead of the black and white one which had a cute little bowtie. I placed this one on my clit on the lowest setting and found it quite pleasant, eventually I got used to it and switched to the highest setting which was really nice but didn’t bring me to the point of “oh yes!”. After a while I decided to switch toys hoping that the Satisfyer Pro 2 would provide the umph I needed to send me over the edge. Unfortunately it didn’t fit comfortably on my body and I couldn’t enjoy it as much as I liked the Penguin. I have a basic rule when it comes to the first tests of any review toy and it is that I try it on its own without any additional stimulation.

On second try of the penguin, I tried it on it’s own switching between settings as if to stimulate like oral sex does. It was nice to have the changes in intensity. I got to the point where I found myself really desperate to orgasm, and added in extra toys, after adding a bit of vibration above my clit, I had a really nice orgasm, I am glad to hear that Satisfyer has added a product to their line that also provides vibration. Check out the Satisfyer Pro Plus Vibration here.

For me, the Satisfyer Pro was a great tease and helped my head to get into the space where I was really turned on and prepared to really enjoy other toys or sex. If I get an evening to enjoy myself this is a great first toy to use to ease myself into the evening, I can even bring it in the tub.

The Products

The Satisfyer Pro Penguin ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 4.0/5.0 stars

?$74.95 USD / €59.95?


✈️ Vacation Sized ✈️

➕ Eleven Modes ➕

This toy was my favourite model ❤️ The larger clitoral suction area was the most comfortable shape for my body. It was a rounded rectangular shape as apposed to the round shape of the other models, the mouth of the toy was also wider. I would recommend this model to anyone who likes a larger clitoral stimulation and wants stimulation directed over the length of the clitorus, This would also be recommended for anyone on testosterone who may have an enlarged clit. This toy is also great if you’re headed somewhere on an airplane. According to the Canadian airport security rules “Tools” must be shorter than 5” to bring on board, this one just makes the cut at 4.75” but I still recommend you have some postage on you just incase. It is such a cute toy as well.

The Satisfyer Pro 2 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 4.0/5.0 Stars

?$74.95 USD / €59.95?


➕ Additional heads available➕

➕ Eleven Speeds ➕

The Satisfyer Pro 2 was the strongest option, and it was the one I was most excited about, it came in at second place for me because it’s head was a bit too small to find the comfortable position for me. I really wanted this to be the right toy for me but in the end the Penguin had it beat! The good part about if you buy this toy and it isn’t right for you is there are many other heads available for you to try with it! The interchangeable silicone heads made cleaning easy.

The Satisfyer 2 ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 3.0/5.0

? $49.95 USD / €39.95 ?

⚡️Requires 2 AAA Batteries ⚡️

➕ 11 Suction Settings➕

My favourite thing about battery operated toys is that you don’t have to remember to charge them. This toy kept things very simple. It wasn’t overly strong for all you sensitive people, in the same sense it didn’t have the intensity of the rechargeable models. If you need intensity I recommend the Satisfyer Pro Penguin or the Satisfyer Pro 2.

All include:

?365 Day money back guarantee?

? 10 Year Warranty ?

✈️ Free Shipping over $49.99 USD ✈️

? Great Prices ?

? Discreet Packaging ?

? Waterproof ?

☑️ Silicone and ABS plastic ☑️


✅ Clean toy with Antibacterial scent-free soap

✅ Use water based lubricant

? Don’t use silicone based lubricant

? Not for internal use.

 ? Only the Satisfyer Pro 2 has a removable silicone tip


The Satisfyer models were a huge step up from any “Oral-Clitoral stimulation” toy I have tried. It had patterns and waves that made sense with my body. It did a good job of doing what I expected, for me oral sex generally provides an intense thought of “oh my gosh fuck me now please” and if you are looking to build up that energy and oral sex does that for you this is the toy. It should be remembered that alot of the female orgasm is brought on by our heads and what we are thinking. If nipple play is your thing, these toys can also be used on any area that you would want a mouth. This toy can help you reach a perfect state of teased, or for those who are more sensitive; it may actually bring on orgasm. My favourite way to use this toy was to tease for a while, then bring other toys into the mix. I am not very sensitive overall and without other toys I couldn’t climax. This toy is great if you are having a hard time getting to the same level as you’re partner, I almost guarantee it’ll be a worthwhile tease, and Satisfyer has a money back guarantee for 365 days!

I have had the opportunity to hold the Womanizer and the Satisfyer and I would personally recommend the Satisfyer by the visual and physical differences.

Thank you to Satisfyer for providing me these models in exchange for an honest review.

Lube Review: Sex Tarts Tangy Lube

Sex Tarts Tangy Lube for Lovers

Sex tarts 6oz pack

Sex tarts 6oz pack


I decided to buy some Sex Tarts Flavoured lube because it tastes so darn amazing. I think this is my go-to lube for oral sex. I would avoid using it internally, but it so delicious it is basically candy for sex.


Deionized water, Glycerine, Propylene Glycol, Hydroxypropyl Methylcellulose, Aspartame, Artificial flavor, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Diazolidinyl.

There are many ingredients that I do avoid, which is one of the reasons I would prefer not to use it internally, if it wasn’t for it’s delicious taste I would of never of bothered to talk about it. But here I am. I am always telling people to avoid glycerine and propylene glycol. I don’t agree with using aspertame, but atleast it isn’t a sticky ingredient.

Internal use:

Before putting this on a toy to give you a good idea of what this lube was like, I checked the stickyness on my arm. After concluding that it didn’t get too sticky or leave me feeling covered in goop, I tried it out. I don’t recommend using glycerine internally, especially as a frequent lubricant. Use of glycerine lubricants can cause yeast infections. Sex Tarts lubricant was ok. It stayed wet for about 5 mins with friction.

External use:

I would mainly recommend this lubricant if you like sweet and tart tastes. This tastes alot like the sweet/sour candy tubes the 90s kids know so well. The nostalgia is a fun aspect of it. This would be good for anyone who has no sensitivities to use for ora sex, either bj or clitoral. While in reality there is no need for lubricant in these activities, if you want to add some flavour this is an option. This could also be good for an edible massage product, though it may make you slightly sticky.


If you want a flavoured lubricant but have sensitivities, you may want to concider Sliquid Swirl products. They have a lighter taste but are far superior to the sex tarts when it comes to body health. They contain no bad ingredients. Some people avoid aspertame so if this is you, you may want to concider a non flavoured lubricant.

Where to purchase:

Sex Tarts Lube

Sliquid Swirl

Toy Review: XS Rivetor

The XS vs. small

The XS vs. small


Thank you to SplitPeaches for this great dong in exchange for an honest review.

Comparison to Small:

Review of Small SplitPeaches Rivetor here

I previously reviewed the SplitPeaches small rivetor a couple months ago. It became appearent that it was just too large for my body to get to completely enjoy all of its great features. I loved the toy, completely body safe made from premium silicone, I really wished it had worked for me.

Thankfully, Andy is the world’s best troubleshooter, and using some suggestions from a couple bloggers and I; we managed to create a smaller version.

My favourite thing about the original small rivetor was that when it did get fully in me, the length was ABSOLUTELY perfect. Andy took this into account, and as you can see in the above photo it is the same length as the small version.

Andy changed the circumference and now this is the perfect toy! The bumps feel absolutely amazing and twisting in brings a rush of sensation that I am greatful I didn’t have to miss out on.

This new version is also much better sized for intermediate peggers, or people wishing to use it anally. Since it is silicone you can boil it to sanitize it making it great for where ever you prefer.


All SplitPeaches products are silicone. Silicone is body safe and able to be sanitized by boiling. With proper care a silicone toy can be a lifelong product. It is important that any silicone lubricant is NOT used on it, as this will affect the material the toy is made of.


Boil, bleach, or use soap and water or toy cleaner. Silicone is super easy to clean and can be completely sanitized.


The rivetor is curved to provide G-spot stimulation. It has many bumps along the shaft that provide a thrilling sensation when moved in and out, or turned. The thick nut shaped base is great for controlling the toy. The base also makes it anal safe and this toy could be used with many strap on systems.


One of my favourite things about SplitPeaches products is the variety of colours available: Rainbow, Glowgasm, Metallic, half and half and all the basics colours.

More about SplitPeaches:

SplitPeaches is a company owned by Andy. He works his butt off and gets noticed by many great sites, such as SheVibe and Amazon. All of the SplitPeaches products are available on the website

SplitPeaches is great for listening to peoples advise and creating products that appeal to his fan base. The owner is very people centric and is an amazing guy to talk to. The company has an amazing quality control system for sending out products and Andy likes to make sure people are happy with everything. If you have some ideas you can let me know at and I will pass it along or DM @SplitPeaches directly on Twitter.



Rated: 4.5/5

Body Safe Silicone

Strap on Compatible

Anal Safe

Use: Waterbased lubricant (Sliquid Sassy)

Do NOT use: Silicone lubricant

Non vibrating


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Toy Review: Vibratex Mystic Wand

When I first talked to the owner of Venus Envy about doing a review for Venus Envy, she wanted to know if I would review the Vibratex Mystic Wand. Normally I am not a fan of battery operated clitoral toys. I have found the exception. Thank you for the chance to do this review.

I received the Vibratex Mystic Wand from Venus Envy Ottawa in exchange for an honest and fair review. 

Mystic wand collage

Specs:Materials: ABS, Silicone
Batteries: 4 AA (rechargeable wand available)
Functions: 6 modes: 3 vibration intensities and 3 patterns
Volume: Low (Barely noticed an arms length away from body)
Optional Wand Attachments
Compatible with Water Based Lubricant


  • Silicone Head
  • AA operation lasts long time
  • Easy to control
  • Comes with storage bag
  • Fits well to body
  • Intense Rumbly Vibes
  • Shower Friendly (Splash resistant)
  • Light weight


  •  Head is not removable
  • Uses disposable batteries
  • Bright light on wand

The Vibratex Mystic Wand is a true wand. I was skeptical about a battery operated wand, so much so that before I agreed to review it I stopped by Venus Envy to check it out in person. The rumbly vibrations seemed satisfactory and I was in, it takes 4 AA’s. Surprisingly it has the same strength as my other rechargeable mid sized wand, the Please Satisfy Wand. This excited me since one of the saddest things about my rechargeable wand is when it dies I have to wait a minimum of 30 mins and by then I am off doing other things.

I got home and took it out of the box and compared it to my Please Satisfy Wand, and it’s head was slightly larger. I went through the settings I noticed that it starts out low with a green light, followed by an orange light for the middle setting, and on the 3rd function, the strongest setting, there was a red indicator light. The next 3 functions were patterns, The first one pulsed in short medium strength vibrations ( – – – – – – ) the second was two short beats followed by one longer ( – – — – – — ) the third vibration pattern is a solid vibration that escalates slowly from off to high.

Using a mid sized wand with this much power was a great experience. It was small enough that it easily fit to my body and targeted the clitoris. It is also light enough that it didn’t take much effort to hold. I found that I could still use it to provide added stimulation by moving the wand on my clit. A great feature of this wand is that you can purchase wand attachments for it so that you can use the strong vibrations internally. The attachment made specific to this toy is a rabbit style, providing internal stimulation as well as clitoral.

I am surprised by the fact that this wand has lasted as long as it has with the batteries I first put in it. Shout out to Panasonic. I fully expected to go through a set of batteries each time I used the wand for 30 mins. Clearly Vibratex must of put some thought into the making of this toy. It manages to remain strong, while not burning through batteries in the process.

Please bob wand next to vibratex wand and please desire wand

Comparison of Full sized Pink BOB wand, Vibratex Mystic wand and mid sized Please Mini wand

If you are looking for the perfect battery operated mid-sized wand that fits easily to your body, I recommend the Vibratex Mystic Wand. I know many people who have kids don’t like having toys charging and opt for the battery operated versions. This option will not disappoint. I have seen other options on the market and they do get close to living up to power of this toy.

This toy is available for $89.95 on the Venus Envy website, and if you can make it into the Ottawa or Halifax store, you can get it for $89.95 without having to wait for the item to shipping. I always recommend going in store if it is an option so you can get a first hand look of the toys before deciding to purchase. This is the reason I started blogging, so that people who didn’t have access to stores with educated staff could learn more about the purchases they want to make.

Venus Envy Ottawa:

Venus Envy’s staff were knowledgeable and inclusive. The walls each had labels to let people know what each section was all about. With my Vibratex Mystic Wand I received an information paper to tell me about my warranty and necessary batteries. They sell a variety of gender expression items, including a variety of cyber skin and silicone packers, binders and gaffs, as well as stand-to-pee devices.

As well as having inclusive products, Venus Envy also has workshops, so that everyone who wants to go to a workshop can, they are also sliding scale so that the attendee pays what they can.

Despite being a small store Venus Envy has a huge selection of stock. Each item they sell has a display model for customers to get a great idea of the product. All ready to turn on, making the experience easier for shy visitors.

Recently someone under the age of 18 had walked into Venus Envy to purchase a binder. (Chest restraint to flatten breasts). When their parents found out Venus Envy got in a bit of trouble. Since this happened Venus Envy has removed porn from the store making it okay for people of all ages to enter. This action proves Venus Envy’s true ideals. Not only does Venus Envy make the purchase of these items easier for all, they also have an initiative to help people to get binders and gaffs if they can’t afford it. If you want to donate to this effort you can go here. It is clear that Venus Envy is a store for everyone to feel safe and comfortable.

Venus Envy Ottawa is located in Ottawa’s LGBTQ village on Bank street. Venus Envy has a second location in Halifax if you can make it there, as well as being online at   Both stores are LGBTQ+ friendly, and accessible so all are welcome.


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Pay it forward: Buy a Binder/Give a gaff

Vibratex Mystic Wand


Pink B.O.B Rechargeable Desire Wand

Photo of pink bob wand sitting next to box and charger

The Pink B.O.B Desire wand is my first ever full sized wand I get to review for the blog. I was so excited to try it out. The benefits of using a full sized wand was that I could start to buying attachments for internal use of the strong vibes of a full sized wand. I also suspected that it would have a longer lasting battery than my mid sized wands.


Price: $35.95 at
Material: TPR Blend & ABS plastic
Functions: 10 total; 2 Speeds, 8 patterns
Noise: Medium-Loud (They are transparent about this on the site)
Wand Strength: Intermediate (If you are new to wands)
Colour: Pink and White
Battery: Rechargeable (Can not use while charging, but lasts a while)

The desire wand has a similar design to most of the wands that are available. The head is made out of a removable TPR blend. The ability to remove the head makes it easy to clean. Similar to many wands, the head is TPR and that is a porous material. I would recommend using a silicone attachment over this wand to avoid bacterial problems. Clitoral wand attachment available here.

Please bob wand next to vibratex wand and please desire wand

I believe this would be the perfect wand for someone who is uncertain about using a wand but want the aesthetic of it. I know before actually grasping the amazing strength of a wand I had seen it used in many porn videos. This wand has similar strength to my Please Satisfy Wand (a medium sized wand). It isn’t as extremely powerful as an original Magic wand, or a DOXY, but those are some of the strongest wands available. The price on this wand is part of the appeal of it. It is a rechargeable wand option for almost 1/3rd the price of the other options. Since I love pink this was a perfect option for me.

The vibration of the Desire wand is lower range than many full sized wands available, but is not lower than some full sized wands I have felt. It stays within the expected range of a large wand and it had a rumbly vibration that stimulates deeply. It has 10 total settings, 2 speeds: Low and High, and 8 pattern options. One of the benefits of using this wand over other wands is that it seems to be much lighter and easier to hold.

I chose the rechargeable wand over the plug in one which is also available for $28.95. The only drawback some people have about the rechargeable wand is that when it is plugged in it cannot be used. Honestly I have found the battery amazing. I have yet to charge it, and it has been used for approximately an hour and a half. It is strong enough that this was about 15 uses. Normally toys come about half charged to fully charged when they are received. I will always run my battery to zero before charging it the first time. I find it allows the battery to get properly charged. One thing I love about this wand is that when it is not being charged or used it has a plug in the charging port that protects the motor from having energy sent to it when it isn’t on, thus making the toy have a longer life. When the charging port is plugged the wand will not turn on, this is also good for travel.

I am happy to have this new option and it has become one of my go-to’s I love the rumbly vibes and ability to be used with most wand attachments. The battery is long lasting and that is perfect!


For $35.95 the Pink BOB Desire Rechargeable wand is a cost effective, lower strength full sized wand. It is great for someone who wants to experience a wand but worries they will find the pricey options too strong. This wand is extremely rumbly and stimulates deep into tissue. It is light enough to be easier to hold than other stronger options.

Let go,

Whimsy <3


I don’t always orgasm… and that’s okay. Experiences pt. 2

Lip bite

My teenage years left me with high expectations of the orgasms to come. I didn’t have sex until I was 18, and when I did, it was amazing. My first time I had sex was with a woman. There is something amazing about when someone else touches you. I tell my friends; you can’t tickle yourself. I knew this before I had sex the first time. It’s just not the same solo.

Since I got my first toy I have been on a mission to achieve satisfaction. At some point along the way I forgot to enjoy the little things. I forgot that pleasure doesn’t require an orgasm. The slow buildup of pressure and sensation is pleasant in its own right.

After a stint with medication I found my sex drive destroyed. My ability to have an orgasm was lost at 19 and I wouldn’t accept that. I made the decision to stop medication to try and save my libido. This is when I became more concerned with if I have an orgasm.

My obsession with orgasms was ruining my pleasure…

Thoughts play a huge role in our enjoyment of sexual activity. My brain went from fantasizing about what ever turned me on to analyzing what felt good and what toys I thought were crap.

After a year relationship with no orgasms I started to research. I felt broken. Why couldn’t I enjoy pleasure? Aren’t I supposed to want sex all the time and love it? I looked into what could be causing me to feel no enjoyment.

I noticed I had completely put all the value of sexual experiences into the orgasm, if I didn’t get that it was pointless. There was pleasure, I just didn’t notice it and enjoy it like I could. I started to notice the little things, and not to analyse it and question if it would lead to an orgasm, but just to enjoy it. The idea of orgasmic meditation is still very interesting to me, I hope to one day try it.

When I want to masturbate, I have to take time for myself. I have to live in the moment. When I let myself feel every bit of the experience I get to know myself better, I have a better time, and I don’t feel a deep sense of disappointment I got when my goal was to orgasm.

Since I have learned to let go, I have learned how to squirt, I enjoy myself every time I spend time with my body, and I can orgasm when I want to. It isn’t always my goal anymore. I feel extremely satisfied by the pleasure I receive from the experience, and I get more when I let myself relax and play.

When I want to just have an orgasmic release…

I use a mid to full sized wand clitorally and a silicone dong. Everybody is different, and this is what pleases me the fastest. It’s not a guarantee for everyone, but I do recommend it if that’s what you really want.

For mid-sized wands I recommend the Vibratex Mystic Wand, or the rechargeable Dorcel Wanderful.

For full sized wands try a DOXY die cast or a Magic Wand rechargeable.

Just be,

Whimsy Fai <3

Early Experimenting

This post is about my first experiences with masturbation and toys. I hope that the reader will feel comfort in whatever experiences they have had, and feel assured they are just as normal as everyone else. 

My first experiences with sexual pleasure:

When I first started to masturbate I was a bit older than most of my friends had been. I started with research. I found out about the clit and grabbed a mirror to try and understand my lady bits. After finding out where it was located I started with manual stimulation. My hand was the only source of pleasure. It took me a while to figure out why my right arm is way stronger and has more muscles than my left, it gets much more use.

At some point in my exploration, I started to wonder about internal stimulation. I was determined to remain a virgin until marriage, so boys were way out of the question, and needing to be 18 to enter a sex shop I had no real options. [Let it be known, I did lose my virginity and I am at peace with that and glad I did] I grabbed cylinders, in this case a crayola marker about slightly wider than a standard clitoral bullet. Having some idea that this might not be a smart thing to use internally I put a condom on it. [Despite my pledge to stay a virgin I kept condoms on me incase, I guess I thought one day a guy would woo me into being unable to say no]

I could not wait to get into an adult store.

Through-out the “dark years” where I remained toyless, I learned the value of massage products, shower heads and running water. Thank you internet. These were my first “toys”. My favourite one was a three motor toy that operated with 3 or 4 AA’s. One of the round motors fit perfectly to my body to hit clitorally.

When I turned 18 I would drive past my local adult store. A huge adult “warehouse”. I finally stopped in one day. I remember I bought about $80 worth of products: A jelly dong (Ahhh!), some flavoured lube by ID, and a small bullet that used watch batteries. Despite all the advise from staff to avoid jelly, I still went for it. I think the reality is, some people are going to go for it, despite strong recommendations not to. As a first toy, I understand the purchase of it more than an experienced purchaser. I find after the 2nd or 3rd time buying a toy and hearing recommendations against it, most people will change there choice. I have found that many of these first toys didn’t last long and I found myself naturally guided to try something higher end, even if it meant a higher price.

I believe it must of been the two years of a UTI that persisted and would not leave me alot that really changed things for me. I now refuse to buy products for my kitty thay aren’t going to keep it healthy. I don’t know for certain that it was my use of jelly toys that caused it, but it certainly didn’t prevent it.

I really only trusted one store with everything I needed, one of the staff members, who first ID’d me and told me jelly wasn’t the best option was someone I had trust in. I knew I would hear the truth about any product. It was amazing to be able to talk to someone who talked so freely about toys, as many people tell me I do now, “as if it were toothpaste”.

There is plenty more to my exploration. Little did I know that I would eventually work at that Adult “warehouse” that I first walked into. Since starting working there I have learned way more about toys, and I have explored way beyond this.

Every time I explore myself sexually I need to remain open minded, I can’t focus on the goal of orgasm because then I miss out on the pleasure that comes from each pleasurable action, just because I know myself better now, or have better toys, doesn’t mean I have to miss out on all the pleasures I feel. Don’t sell yourself short by thinking you have the perfect fool proof method, you may miss out on new experiences. I will save that for another day.


Try going toyless if you haven’t yet, it is a great way of getting to know yourself.

If you want to go for a rechargable, silicone option, with a warrantee and spend a bit more, get a versatile option  such as the We-Vibe Tango pleasure mates pack.

Use body safe toys: Silicone, Glass, Stainless steel, and Stone

Clean toys properly

Only use toys intended for anal use in the rectum (See: Anal)

if you have any questions, ask an informed employee at the adult shops, or email me, I love to help.

My email is

Love Always,

Whimsy Fai <3

The Similarities of Squirting and tears.


View of the water.


I recently returned back home after 14 days of inner exploration. Coming back home was a big shock. While I was there I didn’t get to masturbate, but I learned how to cry. I found similarities between being vulnerable with my emotions, as there are with being vulnerable sexually.

Everyone has area’s that come easier to them. For me, talking about sexuality is a breeze, I love it and openly share about it. For others, this may not be the case. While away, I found myself uncomfortable with others, and my emotions. This seemed similar to how some people shun talks of sexuality. It just feels uncomfortable to them.

I spend a long time thinking about my next post. Originally when I left I had thought my next blog would be about my 14 day hiatus from sex toys, and maybe that will be the case in the near future, but now is time to open up to you. The people of the internet, just enough to talk about squirting and it’s relationship to tears.

How are they similar?

Firstly, Squirting and/or tears come naturally to some people, yet for others are a learning curve. When I first started trying to learn how to have female ejaculate I found often I would get close but hold back, it was only after realizing I needed to let it happen in order to gush that I learned how. Similarily it reminds me of my current battle with allowing myself to cry. When something sad happens, I find myself feeling the tears surfacing, and in the same breath stopping them from flooding my eyes. I know that if I let go, and let it happen, it will, and does end eventually. I will feel better having done it.

Secondly, Both have an afterglow that feels mellow and warm. Orgasm’s provide me with this afterglow which people are generally familiar with. The same goes for tears, after a good emotional release, I feel a sense of calm and relief.

Third, A certain level of vulnerability is required especially when around others. Sex can feel uncomfortable, especially when with someone for the first time. “Am I doing this right for them?”, “How does my body look?”, and “What if I sound weird when I orgasm.” Such sentences that dance in my head. Crying can be such a hard thing to do. It can come at the worst of times. Frequently I will think familiar statements; “My face looks puffy!”, “What will people think of me.”, and “What is that sound?.”

Lastly, they are both completely natural and good for us. They don’t last forever, and they will always teach us something about our body and minds. You don’t need to share all of yourself with all people. We all have people we trust to talk to or enjoy sex with, and those people are different for everyone. You are the only one who can be a true guide to happy, trusting people.


Emotional and sexual health are connected. We can’t neglect one without loosing an important part of the other. Getting to know ourselves is important and knowing our feelings, both in generalitys and during sex is an important piece to understand our limits, boundaries and providing consent. Sex is fun, let yourself be vulnerable and don’t hold yourself back. Be with someone you can trust. Be true to your emotions. Everyone is on their own journey. Follow your path.

Be yourself, love yourself, trust yourself,

Whimsy Fai <3

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